Tuesday, June 23, 2009

How to keep an interesting conversation going - TIP

You can use this on first dates or when you meet her casually for a drink.

One of the keys is "open ended questions".
  • What is it that you find the most exciting about your life right now?
  • If you could shift one thing in your existence, what would that be?
  • What was your high today?
  • Etc.

Open ended questions mean that she needs to answer by more than yes or no.

She needs to share her opinions, ideas, insights or experiences.

Be a good listener.

Many guys make the mistake of jumping as soon as she says something they recognize.

They go like: "Unbelievable!!! The exact same thing happened to me the other day... I was in the subway and..."

Hooooo! Hooo! HO!

What happened right there?

She was in the flow of sharing and you blocked her, took all the attention to yourself.

Don't make that mistake!

You need to spend 60% of your time listening when you are with her.

That's what gives her value.

When she shares something ask her follow up question like:

  • Tell me more...
  • What happened next?
  • How did that really make you feel?

You see? You are interested!

She likes that!