Sunday, June 07, 2009

I got pushy! - Now she pulled back! - ARTICLE

Suppose that the girl you just started dating does not respond to your expectations:
  • She has kids and can't meet you for dates as frequently as you would like.
  • She is VERY busy with work.
  • She is still divorcing her ex.
  • She is dating other guys.
  • She has no intention of comitting to you.
  • She frequently cancels dates or shows up late.
  • She does not want to have sex.
  • Etc.

There are dozens of reasons why a woman could disapoint you.

The key question is: How do you respond?

Is it better to put your foot down and demand that she changes her attitude towards you or is it better to give her all the space she needs and keep living?

As you can imagine the second option is by far the best.

Don't push!

Don't demand!

Don't be needy!

If she cancels dates, stop scheduling them!

If she only gives you one evening every three weeks, have other options! Date other girls!

If she does not want to have sex yet, understand her needs and take small steps towards greater intimacy!

But!... Never be pushy or demanding!

Here is the deal: when you put her under pressure, you limit her!

What do you think will be her emotional reaction?

Retreat of course! Defend her freedom!

When you start dating her, she is NOT giving you the right to tell her what to do, so respect and let her control her life!

When you start being pushy with her, it usually means that you are already too invested in her.

Your expectations are higher than what she can give.

This is why it is SO ESSENTIAL to keep your options open and not committ yourself to someone who is not commited to you.

It makes sense of course!

Tame your passion and redirect your desires rather than getting emotionally hooked on someone you won't fulfill your needs!

Got that?

To your power!